Not Just Music Podcast Episode 64 ft Duan & Q "Expensive Parenting"

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Yo Q what up?

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Man I'm keeping it real what up Duan?

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Welcome

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to not

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just music

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where we keep it real

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and honest

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always

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I

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Was going on people another episode of not just music podcast and blood doing burino quincey murdoch in the building as always

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And another chance to talk to you good people on your Thursday

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Eight o'clock p.m. Hopefully everybody's having a great week had a great week because we are at the end of a week

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Friday is tomorrow. Hopefully we moving and in the driver's seat steel from the last week to this week

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Hopefully we figure something out. Hopefully somebody got to a bag somewhere. I'm sure y'all did

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Hopefully somebody got to a goal somewhere. I know you did a dream somewhere. I know you did. Hopefully y'all are staying consistent

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Hopefully I'll stand on the gas because there are a lot of podcasts that do watch us. So again

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If nothing else, hopefully you are blessed biggest thing less

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Um, because I think I forget to say that a lot because it's more than just doing this man

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Hopefully you just get up daily and just be happy if nothing else find something to make you happy

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Because that's important. Your happiness is important as an individual

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You know, you're a hero regardless of to your own self. So again be motivated be gratified by that

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again

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What can we say we do this every week, you know, here we are again, we love it

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It's us and it's a love and there's a strategy for everything. So how you doing, bro? Good, bro, man

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Cheers to another episode

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Everything is great. Everything is moving. That's the thing. That's the good thing man. We a we still here and we still working

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That's the most important thing because some people ain't here and some people ain't working

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No, and people if you got breath in your body right now

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Motivate I challenge you to go work you go do something for love. You better be thankful

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Yeah, and again

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to be exact this is

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Yeah, well, this is August 31st, this is the last day

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On this day now what we are shooting on for you guys will be

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August the 31st. So this is the last day. Here's a new month coming in

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So school is basically in now for a lot of people and if not

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School is you know, everything's rolling college. Yeah

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Everything's in now. So fun times. Fun times. So again, let's pop it off. Yeah, let's pop it off

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Let's talk about some challenges because we see I hear a lot of

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I hear a lot of parents now and I heard this is this is we've talked about this before because I just like to

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I said we talked about before first

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We talked about this before parents. I want y'all to understand y'all got to slow down

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With this stuff y'all be doing before school starts man. I see I seen a lot of

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things

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Being purchased that are really irrelevant

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to a student or somebody that is a

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Child that is you know growing and developing. Do y'all even buy pencils anymore?

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crayons

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You know markers

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Highlighters

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Do y'all even have do we even still have pencil boxes anymore? They make them anymore y'all

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I think they might still make pencil boxes. They do they do

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They think they do

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Y'all even I know I don't even

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Y'all even buy notebook paper

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Y'all even buy notebook paper anymore. Y'all even buy notebooks anymore. Is that even is that even in Walmart?

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I just tried this to remember if I actually see a lot of this stuff going

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I'm sure they still have some of this stuff on the shelves, but the outrageous purchases what this is what I I

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Saw a parent I

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my own eyes

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Saw a parent literally by her child for pairs of Jays for school

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parents of Jays for school

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I didn't see a notebook. I didn't see

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Anything else how much is one pair of Jays?

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Jays for her first child with text

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Jays for her first child with text

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This was a $200 shoe

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This was a $200 shoe

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He wasn't a little boy at all these are the men grown men shoes. Yeah

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He wasn't a little boy at all these are the men grown men shoes. Yeah

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He wasn't a little boy at all these are the men grown men shoes. Yeah

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listen

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it was little over thousand something dollars just for the shoes bruh

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and I talked to myself like

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He going go, and he gonna dirty them shoes up

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He gonna put holes in them.

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They gonna tear on the bottom

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and what good

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What good is it gonna do is it gonna make them learn better

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you know it's gonna it's gonna have a superpower

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his thing. For me, what's his name gonna grow? What is he gonna be? If she even saw this,

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I'm painfully sorry I said that about you. That's about the most pointless shoes. That

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made me hurt. That made my pockets hurt. If you can buy your child at, do it. And you

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know what killed me? They'll try to rub it off on the father, the mothers that believe

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in it. Try to rub it off on the father and make him feel like a bad, horrible father

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when he don't get it to the routine that y'all do. You know what I'm saying? I don't believe

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in it. I don't believe in it. I think it's a thing. I don't believe in it. I've learned

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he's a horrible father. He don't want his kid to look good. Even as a child. You know.

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I'm gonna give him some felines. You can live comfortably and look nice and some money.

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Is nothing wrong with budget. What about having the white forces? Shoe. You know what I found

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was crazy man. And this new thing about shoes and especially, let's just say how you say

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the forces, right? People will look at you funny if your Air Forces are slightly dirty.

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So I don't know if it's a thing of saying people have a code of living. If you have

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a code, if you got a code you love to live by, knock yourself out. I got to the point

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now and I think due to my younger years I was a stickler to I have to have clean shoes.

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But the crazy part was is I could keep the same pair of shoes clean all year round. Me

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too bro. Don't take me to get in, you know. It must be a single child thing. If you take

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me to get in, we appreciate it more. If it's a value on things, you would think, I'm trying

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to say this. Some parents, if you got it like that, you got it like that. If you don't have

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it like that but you're trying to make your child stand out due to the clothes and the

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shoes and everything's put together, it's not gonna look good for you though if little

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Johnny or little Rebecca's brain ain't going along with this nice outfit. What good are

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we to teach our kids that they in school making D's and F's. Oh I'm fresh to death though

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with my D's and my F's though ain't I. I look good. My mama got this for me. Probably ain't

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even going to school. My mama got it for me. I look good though. Look at me. I look good.

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I look beautiful. I look wonderful. But dumb as a rock. But I'm dumb as a rock. Can't even

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get a C. Dumb as a rock. Can't even get a C. Don't nobody know you. They know you for

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the troublemaker. Oh that's Johnny making D's and F's. Troublemaker. But he clean though.

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He clean. But he dumb though. He putty. He over that sitting putty but his brain ain't

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touching nothing. It's hanging around in there. It's rolling around. And you know the ones

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with sense. Looking at them, shaking their head. Look at them, they dumb. Yeah. Yeah.

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Some of the smartest individuals coming up to me were people that didn't want to stand

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out. And I thought about it like this. And that's fine with me. Because it's people that

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like to boast about what they have. And there's nothing wrong with boasting. But boasting ain't

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the way you supposed to do it. If you ain't humble, me, I'm a humble person. I always

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say that. I'm humble. I've never made it seem as if I wanted to be where everybody else

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was at. Or doing what everybody else was doing. Facts. Or you know I wore J's but I got to

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the point where I didn't want J's anymore. By the time I was in 10th grade. Yeah. I switched

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the whole game on to everybody. And this was when the color wave of the Soconis came out.

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I got every single color, bruh. When the low top Soconis came out, I got every color. And

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my school colors were blue and orange, right? Navy blue and orange. So I went and got the

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navy blue and the orange pair, right? Not on the same day. But I got the navy blue and

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the orange pair. And came to school with one blue on and one orange on, bruh. The same

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day that the J's dropped. Can you believe that them Soconis got way more attention than

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them J's that came out that year? Yeah. And the crazy part about it is, what I'm basically

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saying is, if you can come up with your own concept, your own lane in a budget, that makes

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you this much more further ahead than somebody who is broke trying to purchase a way into

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I want my child to have this. I want my child to have that. They gotta look like this. They

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gotta look like that. It's sad that it's that many parents out here now, bruh.

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More of the story. Do you want to look rich or do you actually want to be rich?

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Which one? Do you want to actually be rich? And when

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I say rich, I ain't just talking about money. I'm talking about rich and the mindset. Do

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you want to look rich or do you want to be rich?

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And that's like you were just saying, the child is dumb. Yeah. But got all these clothes

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on. And we gotta keep it real because we baby

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people too much now. You know what I'm saying? Oh, let them be a kid. You know what I'm saying?

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Nah, you can't let them be a kid just to be a kid. They gotta know some things. They gotta

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know some things. Gotta raise it. This part, it seems to be forgotten

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about so much. But when we come back, we'll go from there.

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So this is the thing. A lot of parents do give too much to their child. They do it the

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wrong way. So it gets to the point where it's overbearing and they don't know how to really

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bounce back from doing the little simple stuff of understanding like what did you learn as

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a parent? Are you passing that to them or are you teaching them the correct methods?

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Because a lot of the methods I really think of getting passed on, as we say, from generation

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to generation. The system.

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It throws it. So nobody is basically learning. So if you didn't learn anything, what are

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you doing to get your child in a position to be better than what you were? That's how

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it's supposed to go. And I think it really affects the little girls

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growing up. They see mama getting this government assistance on this welfare. They wanna grow

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up and be dependent on the system. And it creates a cycle.

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You know what I'm saying? But in men's ways, they're more likely to probably go get it

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the legal way. You know what I'm saying? Because we don't really get the help these females

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get. So what we do, we go make it happen illegally sometimes. So you can work with somebody that

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has a good work habit and maybe is doing illegal things, you can make them change that into

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something legal and build something. You know Empire, like 50 Cent?

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Exactly. You know what I'm saying? How he took the

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street life and moved that to the business. 50 has the best story. One of the best stories.

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If nothing else, look at the aspects of taking street hustle to illegal hustle.

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And shout out to Eminem and Dr. Drake for seeing the vision and giving them a chance.

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Definitely shout out to him. Because since he got on, he took off. A lot of them that

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came on in his era understand that 50 was big dog at that time.

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And he had the hustling mentality before. All he needed, like we talked about in previous,

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all he needed was that support system. That's part of it.

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Somebody behind him. And again, that plug.

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When Eminem took that chance on him, it kind of actually helped Em get away from having

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to do music so much. Because 50 was such a force. G Unit was such a force. Now you got,

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okay, of course, let's think about it like this. So we take an investor mentality towards

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things, right? Look at what 50 did with the money he's been getting. This man putting

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out TV shows. Power, man.

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And considerably one of the best at it right now due to how he came into it. A lot of people

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feel like, oh well. Oh yeah, and he's still selling out shows, selling out tours, man.

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Yeah, that's a gig. Big, big time. They still know him for his music, too.

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If it's nothing else to say that you've already created a lane musically, anything that you

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add on to it is a plus. Multiple hustles is nothing wrong with that. A lot of people just

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don't know how to take that money from one and put it in the next hustle. I've seen it

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happen so, like, to me, most people have the hardest time taking time to learn investments.

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We as a company, not just Music Podcast, if we make bad investments, why are we going

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to go buy 20 sit-under hair dryers? What do we need 20 sit-under hair dryers for?

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Is that anything in corporate to what we do as a brand?

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Nope.

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Is that going to be useful to what we do as a brand?

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So like we're talking about with the kids.

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Shoes.

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What having every pair of Jordans.

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How is that going to benefit them?

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It's going to benefit them.

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As a person.

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As a child. Thank you.

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Yeah.

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They look good, but what's up there in that brain? What's in that, you know, the morals

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of principles. You know what I'm saying?

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Thank you.

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Because you can't, you know what? I really think the best people with the best character

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are the ones that was broke. They come from nothing. Those are the ones that be the hustlers,

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the go-getters, the ones with the best respect, most respect, the ones that had the wear of

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hand-me-downs from their brothers and sisters. Those are the ones that actually become successful

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and rich because they know the struggle compared to somebody that just got stuff handed to

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them. You know what I'm saying? And they don't know the work ethic or the sacrifice or the

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struggles and the triumphs that comes with getting this stuff. You know what I'm saying?

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That one is going to be the, if you, if it's not gratifying to you, you ain't in the right

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seat. You know what I'm saying? Because it means something when you get it from a position

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where you are. And like, okay, if I take, just say this, if I'm a realtor, what good

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am I if I don't have anything to show you? If I don't have no properties to show you,

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what good is my, what good is, what good or what help can I be? So to me, where I feel

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like a lot of people fail, just like with a realtor, right? You get one house and you

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sell one house and that's it. Where is it going? My thing is, can I bring up 50 again?

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50 said Eminem challenged him. When 50 was selling this amount of records with Get Rich

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a Die Tryin', Eminem was selling double that. So he said, I couldn't settle because I'm

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looking at M as competition. So that got to go harder. So you got Eminem, you know what

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I'm saying? That's like your role model. The big dog, it's going to push you. You get what

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I'm saying? So that's another thing, man. The people around you too, man. Like the team,

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you know, motivates you to want more and do more. You get what I'm saying? And that's

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what I'm saying. You got to have the right team mindset too because that deals with the

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mindset thing too. It throws the, you know, a lot, it influenced you a lot by the people

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you hang with is around you. You could be in the gutter so fast, bro, with a lot of

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the stuff that, and I'm not talking junk about nobody, but it's just facts, man. This stuff,

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to say that again, to teach these kids stuff now, let's first take the advantage of again

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taking control of the little stuff. Like I said, what you give your kids, don't just

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give your kids everything, you know? That's just the thing of just saying, it ain't anything

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they can't have. I'll get you baby, I'm going to get you whatever you want. No, don't do

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it that way. Be mindful, be picky, be strategic to what you give them, what you put in front

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of them. That really will help your child. We've already spoken this before again. We

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ain't going to double up on it too hard. Now! Can I say one thing? Yeah, he was with it.

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And it's probably going to come off harsh, but I think that's what prison does to people

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that gets all this material and put on this pedestal and never had to work for things.

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When you go to prison, they make you cut your hair for one. They do. Some people, their

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hair is everything to them. The jewelry, you can't have none of that in there. No. You

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know what I'm saying? The Jordans, all this stuff that you cover up, that covers up the

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real you, you can't hide behind that stuff no more. So it brings you to reality, this

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is me. So you have to love who you are for you instead of these Jordans. And that's what

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educates people even more, makes them better people. I think citizens, role models, entrepreneurs,

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just people in general. Sometimes you got to break a person down to build them up. Yeah.

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Get what I'm saying? Yeah. So over the next few weeks, I want to start to establish a

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place of understanding for allowing blessings to come in. What I'm trying to say about it

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is this. So the only way you can be able to receive blessings, you have to be open for

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it. A lot of people aren't open to receiving blessings because of one thing, how they fist

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balled up too tight and they ain't willing to give nothing. This episode I want to talk

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about give, giving. Giving is a hard thing to do. Giving is a hard thing to do. Giving

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is a hard thing to do. Whether if you're giving something up, in a sense more so when you're

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giving, you're giving something up. But in this case sometimes it's giving away knowledge

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or giving away money. But the biggest thing is how many people actually have a hard time

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understanding what giving should be. So again, what are you giving to your community? Let's

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start there. What are you giving to the community? I feel that a lot of times with that part,

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it runs us a little off course because we need to really, really, really take time to

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understand that it's going to take giving to get further. The more and more I've given,

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especially with what we do now, the more I've given, the more I've been able to receive.

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It was hard to see it at first, but what I had to realize is where I was getting, where

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the receiving end was coming in from. Because sometimes people don't notice it as notice

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what you're doing until you're really in the midst of doing it. A lot of the stuff

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that I've been getting, it was a lot of thank yous. There's been a lot of thank yous. There's

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been a lot of people like, okay, you know what? That was perfect. That needed to be

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said. Or the sharing. Somebody that shares your word, what you say, that's giving. You

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get what I'm saying? We get a lot of that, bro. This first time I'm hearing this too,

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bro. Considerably. We get a lot of hate too. A lot of times, it's hate, but more so, again,

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when somebody takes the time to share what you have, that means you gave them something

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to give to somebody else. You get what I'm saying? I have to look at that as a blessing

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now. We do this all the time. We do this about every few weeks. We sit down, we shoot, we

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put it together, put it out. You expect what you put out, what you've given out to come

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back. How it comes back sometimes. For example, I can go on Facebook and I'm sure somebody,

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let's see. But it's also like the more you do it, the more eyes come on you, man. They

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see you keep pushing. Within 24 hours, okay, so within a 48 hour time span, see that's

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two people there. Go over here to IG. The IG is a totally different thing. It adds more

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to the mix. From today, let me see. Today, let me go over here. So, one share there,

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four shares there. These are authentic views and comments. So, two, four, so about a little

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over ten people that shared what we felt. Do you understand what I mean? Sometimes what

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you give doesn't have a monetary value on the end of it. It just may come with somebody

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just sharing what you said. Again, I had to think about it like this. You know what? What

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if that was my music though? It's different. So, I have to look at it as if maybe what

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I say, maybe what you say makes more sense in a sense of without anything musical.

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It's crazy, ain't it?

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You see what I'm saying? So, whatever you're giving in the case of, we're giving our time

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to this. We're giving ours to this. This is the part that's free. So, you hope that what

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we're putting together, when people get it, they'll give it to somebody else. That's what

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we wanted to be. How are we going to ever reach millions and millions if we're not giving

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them something? So, I think Wallo said that one time before, everybody has a lane in this.

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Find a topic. There are going to be people that don't like Wallo. There are going to

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be people that don't like Gilly. They're not going to like me in the All-A-Word for

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a game, but they might like us.

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That's what I'm saying. It's a spot for everybody.

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Everybody.

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It's a spot for everybody.

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Billions and billions of people out here, why are we sitting mad? Because these people

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thriving. We can get our own lane.

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You know how that happens. Being yourself.

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We don't need to be Wallo.

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Being yourself.

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We don't need to be none of these other podcasts. We need to be not just music podcasts.

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And I respect how they do it, the way they do it.

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You know, clap for everybody, man, and stay original.

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They keys it.

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Stay original. Stay original to you, but also celebrate others. Because when you celebrate

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others, hopefully the celebration comes back to you. They clap for you.

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You get what I'm saying? It's all about us all winning.

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We celebrate the wins together, and it's again, just like in a music game, it's a piece for

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everybody. Stop feeling as if everybody doesn't have a piece.

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Competition, bro. I hate that, bro.

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It's a piece for everybody. It's too much, again, it's too much money being printed.

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Why are we fighting each other?

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Exactly.

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It's too much money being printed. Again, if you stick to it long enough and make people

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believe in it the correct way, brand it right, market it right, they'll believe in you.

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You don't gotta go get everybody else. You can come up with your own crowd.

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You can come up with your own crowd. We do this all the time, yes, but at the same time,

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you can still get in and fit in where you can too.

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So again, remember, it's what you're giving people though.

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There's a lot of people that be wanting to do podcasts too, man.

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But they don't know what to give people.

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There's a lot of people that be wanting to... Yeah, I seen somebody wrote on there,

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should I be honest or should I just talk about topics, lie about things, or just be entertaining?

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They was asking they self that, you know what I'm saying, asking Facebook.

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I wanted to comment on it so bad.

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You try to stay out of stuff.

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But it's like, my method and how I think might not work for you. That's why I try not to

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tell. I always tell people to follow their heart.

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Whatever's in your heart to do, do it. Because how I come off, my method might not work for

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you. Your method might not work for me. I might tell you to keep it real when it ain't

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in your blood, your DNA to keep it real. You know what I'm saying? We cut from a different

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cloth. I'm just me.

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So you take the people like that, right? Yeah.

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And as I say, the ones that's always expecting to just get something.

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And that's how some of them come in it for different reasons. Some of them come in it

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for I want attention. They put their emotions over the craft. I got a lot to say.

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You know what I'm saying? Somebody going to listen to all this drama. I got my baby daddy

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this and that. You know what I'm saying? And that might help somebody that's going through

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that. But the intentions of why you do it also plays a factor in how big it grows and

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how long it will last.

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I was thinking about that, right? Because one of our earlier haters, when we first started

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posting like heavy, it was one guy on there that was he's a podcaster as well. And he

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tried to thrash us for what we were talking about our topic and all of that stuff like

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that. But I went so deep to actually go and look at what this man was giving people, right?

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He trash and everybody.

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He was mad. He mad at everybody. He mad at everybody, bro. He trash and it don't matter.

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You can pick whatever star. Everybody is trash to him. And that's how he felt like he should

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get his buzz off of doing podcasts. Not only that, he don't even do YouTube video. So he

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hides behind the microphone and hides behind his internet posts. He doesn't even have pictures

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on his stuff.

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How you going to succeed like that?

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Thank you, bro.

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I like to be in front of the camera. I'm a camera guy. I like being in front of the cameras

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because I want you all to know, I want you all to see me.

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Who is saying this? Who is saying this?

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I ain't hiding nothing from you.

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People always want to put a face to these words. If you don't put a face to your words,

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you'll never get yourself out there. It'll never succeed trying to be a ghost caster.

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Unless you hiding something, bro.

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What are you hiding? And that's what you want to give to people. And that's what they call

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it. Oh, that's the best I can give people right there. So you telling me you hide behind

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all of these pictures and all of these nine videos so people just hear your words. So

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basically you just mad at everybody. I'm going to be mad at everybody.

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How you expect to gain any supporters if you dissing everybody?

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Bro, it's sad.

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You dissing everybody, but eventually you're going to run out of people to diss and you're

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going to have all this hate and unbehavior.

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And a headache.

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And problems.

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And some people are going to run up on you too.

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You started all of this for no reason.

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You put yourself in a bubble.

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You put yourself in a bubble to where you can never get yourself out of there. And next

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thing to add to that, to make it even more weary, you done, again, you started something

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and now you're going to have to start all over again and recreate and rebrand yourself.

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Like we talked about in the previous episode.

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Nobody's going to want that.

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Nobody.

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If you start off and do it the right way from the beginning, you ain't going to give yourself

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no headache.

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Why not just do it right from the start?

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Making friends in the industry is way better than making enemies in this business.

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Yes, it is.

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Networking with people is way better than trying to be solo, competitive with people.

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Branding with people, working with people, like I'm learning it, it draws back.

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The love you give, majority of the time it comes back to you.

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Thank you.

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That's my joke.

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I always try to show love now.

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I know me showing love, like you said, when you give, it's going to come back to you.

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You pray the love you give returns back to you.

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Exactly.

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Again, now here's y'all part of the giving if you choose to want to give because we just

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gave all this free good info to you all.

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We have Thanksgiving giveaway coming.

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It's right around the corner.

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It doesn't take long to get here.

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If you just want to give to our college, period, it's what we do.

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Just go to the top of the website, hit the donate tab.

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Donate, give whatever you can.

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We will be grateful.

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Again, follow us on everything.

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Subscribe to us on everything.

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We will always continue to give you this great content.

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At the end of the day, we love y'all.

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This is Not Just Music Podcast.

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I'm your boy Duann Brino.

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Got Quincy Murdock in the building.

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We are out.